Becoming masterful at the art of communication helps us in just about any situation, whether negotiating in the business world or forging lifelong friendships. The thing is that the effectiveness of our communication is measured by the response it receives. Often, people misrepresent their message by holding an intention in mind but communicating it in a manner which counters the desired outcome. Learning to congruently convey our message increases its effectiveness and our ability to influence outcomes far more.
A great place to begin is simply by observing the nuances present in others communications with us and how their words are either being reflected in their body language, tonality, speed of speech etc. or not. The act of observation begins to bring into our awareness how we in turn respond to these styles of communication and how we might adjust our own. Here’s a great article to begin with to start developing sensory acuity around the tell tale signs of whether someone is being open with their message or not. I trust it adds value in expanding your own communication.
Our bodies can often be more honest than our words when it comes to communicating our thoughts, feelings, and intentions. When we choose what to say, we’re often using the executive parts of our brains (the “neocortex”). This part of the brain is responsible for conscious attention, language, and thinking, all of which we have a degree of control over with some effort.