I often share with clients and friends the insight that comparison is the thief of joy. When we compare ourselves to others we limit our ability to acknowledge the investment / sacrifice that’s required to achieve outcomes. We blindly assume that things are as they appear at surface level when there is often so much more occurring that is not apparent. Success for example doesn’t happen overnight, it’s the result of tremendous effort, consistent action and the willingness to fail, regroup and move forward.
Being self critical because we believe we ought to be further ahead, have more, be more or any other belief around scarcity keeps us from appreciating what we do have. And when we are making decisions in our world with a limiting outlook as such, we experience more of that which we focus on.
Perhaps it’s time to focus more on gratitude and in so doing experience even more to be grateful for daily.
“To heal a wound, you need to stop touching it.” ~Unknown I’ve always been an overachiever. In sixth grade, I spent weeks memorizing over five pages of the poem “Horatius at the Bridge” for extra credit, even though I already had an A in the class.